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Self-Talk, Addiction, and Why We Procrastinate on What’s Important with Tamar Medford
Episode Summary
Whether or not you have an addiction or an addictive personality, the way you talk to yourself matters. Start changing the script in your mind and learning to care for yourself. Here is an inspirational tale of one woman’s journey from addiction to self-love, and how she did it.
Episode Notes
Whether or not you have an addiction or an addictive personality, the way you talk to yourself matters. Start changing the script in your mind and learning to care for yourself. Here is an inspirational tale of one woman’s journey from addiction to self-love, and how she did it.
Tamar Medford is a performance consultant, podcast host, and champion for people who suffer from addiction. Since overcoming her own 20-year battle with addiction and obesity in 2012, Tamar has dedicated her life to inspiring and empowering others to believe their positive transformation is possible too.
Quotes to remember:
“It was about learning to own my past and own my life at that point.”
“Our resistance to change stops us from being able to get our preferred reality.”
Takeaways:
- Addiction doesn’t necessarily stem from childhood trauma
- The craving for alcohol starts when it’s ingested
- The first step to healing is to recognize that there is a problem, then to relinquish control
- Being heard and seen and knowing you’re not alone is key in recovering
- Being around people who want to help others is an inspiration
- Your vision will carry you through to a sustainable lifestyle
- Shift “How can I?” to “Why can’t I?”
- Mind your words and your self-talk—the script you tell yourself—because it becomes reality
- Your story makes you relatable
- Self-love is the antidote to depending on someone else for your happiness
- Remember the feeling of facing your fear; it comes in handy for the next fear
- Sometimes we don’t achieve our goals because they are too big or too small
What you’ll learn:
- Tamar’s journey through alcohol and drug abuse, an abusive relationship, yo-yo dieting, an unhappy marriage, and weighing 215 lbs., and near suicide attempt
- How she quit drinking, and how you can release your addictions
- What to do when you hit a plateau in your healing/development
- How the spiral of failure and self-pity works
- How Tamar broke the cycle of codependency and the savior complex
- The process of trusting again
- The three reasons we procrastinate
- How to have a vision when you have no idea what to do with your life
- How to get started with a big vision
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