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The Best Goal-Setting Advice You’ll Need with Nelson Tressler

Episode Summary

Take it from someone who utterly transformed his life and avoided a fate of poverty and trauma. Get inspired by his incredible story and start setting your own goals the right way. Avoid the mistakes that most people make, so that you can actually achieve your goals.

Episode Notes

Nelson was the child of a 15-year-old mother after she said a Pennsylvania police officer pulled her over and raped her. Tressler’s grandfather found and fatally shot the officer, leading to his grandfather serving life behind bars. Nelson was the oldest of five children, raised in poverty by an alcoholic and abusive stepfather who was in and out of jail. His first major goal was being the first person in his extended family to receive a college degree, which he fulfilled upon leaving the US Air Force. Flash forward to today, he is married to his best friend and wife of almost 25 years, was a top producer for a top five commercial real estate firm, and has started over 10 businesses. He is the author of The Unlucky Sperm Club: You are Not a Victim of Your Circumstances but a Product of Your Choices.

Quotes to remember:

“My aha moment was, if I could be that first person in my family to graduate from college, I could change the direction of my life.”

“The sky literally was the limit. If I was willing to work long enough, hard enough, and focus enough on a goal then I was going to be able to accomplish it.”

“Goals help you live a life with purpose.”

“We should all be our own hero.”

“Focus is where the power is.”

Takeaways:

We are capable of anything we set our minds to, and it’ll take time and hope
Sometimes we are more capable when we have nothing to lose
You don’t need to know where you’re going; sometimes knowing where you’re getting away from is enough
The potential inside of you is great, and you realize you have more of it after you accomplish a major goal
Your only limitations are the ones you put on yourself
Most people want to feel motivated before setting a goal, but setting a meaningful goal will motivate you
You decide what meaning things have--why give it a bad or self-limiting meaning?
There is one thing that separates you from others: your choices
Many people want to learn the next best thing instead of studying what they already know
When you are crystal-clear on what you want to accomplish, you will find that you have extra time
Goals affect the generations
Fear only exists in one place: our mind

What you’ll learn:

Nelson’s first realization in 7th grade that he life was headed in the wrong direction
How he became involved in personal development
The turning point when he knew that he could do anything he set his mind to
How he went from victim to empowered by the past that he had no part in
Where people go wrong in setting goals
How to use an alter-ego to achieve goals
How to know your goal is the right one for you
Nelson’s single biggest fear

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